7 TOP COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT SEX TOYS

Sex toys! Whether we love them, or hate them, we all seem to have a lot of questions about them and with questions can often come some misunderstandings. Today at Lovedreamer.com, we’re setting the record straight, and eradicating any myths or misinformation you’ve been told by either peers or the internet. Let’s get right to it, starting with the most common misconceptions about sex toys.

1. I’m too old for sex toys.

False!

No one is too old for sex toys! During our lifetimes sex may change as our relationship to our bodies change, as well as we age children moving out of the house and retiring can really make time for a lot more intimacy! Sometimes our interest and desires change, how we like to be stimulated, and more, but all of that is perfectly normal and there are toys for every need and want.

2. Sex toys are just for people with health issues or who aren’t able to have "regular sex."

False!

Sex toys are for everyone, at any age, for so many different types of pleasure imaginable! Sex toys and devices can be used to help with health, as well as many other types of health issues that may arise, but most importantly, they’re objects designed for the purpose of pleasure that anyone can use. Whether you’re looking to explore anal play, or you’re trying for a g-spot orgasm, or even if you’re looking for erectile aids or dilators to help make penetration easier, there’s a perfect sex toy out there for you!

3. Sex toys can hurt you or give you infections.

False!

Sex toys when used properly as intended should never hurt you or give you infections, however we can’t account for misuse or allergies. When shopping for sex toys we can always address this by asking if a sex toy is made from a body-safe material and by asking how to correctly use the toy.

What is a body-safe material?

A body-safe material is any type of material that doesn’t have pores like our skin to store bacteria. If we think of it like a scale, glass and metal sex toys will always be your safest toys as they have no pores, followed by medical grade silicone which can come in a variety of densities, shapes, and sizes which has very little pores for storing bacteria making these 3 materials the most safe. On the other end of the spectrum you have PVC, Rubber, and Cyberskin/Ur3 which all have lots of pores to store bacteria. These last three materials don’t start out unsafe (unless you have an allergy), but overtime with continued use they may store more bacteria which can lead to infections.

Are silicone sex toys safe for use & are silicone sex toys hygienic?

Yes and yes! As mentioned before, silicone is one of the most body-safe materials out there as it has the least pores to store bacteria. Silicone sex toys are very hygenic as they don’t store bacteria and are easy to clean for satisfying use again and again!

4. Masturbating with sex toys is bad for your health.

False!

Contrary to what you may have heard, masturbating is actually great for your health! Masturbation is great for blood circulation, for self love & pleasure, it;s a great stress reliever and has been shown to positively impact mental health. And by adding sex toys to the mix you can help teach your body how to have orgasms in all new ways!

Will we have any health issues if we use sex toys?

As long as you are using a sex toy as instucted, are using toys made with body-safe materials, and using both with lubrication as necessary you should never have any health issues or concerns by using sex toys! They are perfectly healthy to use and can often teach us about what parts of our bodies like stimulation, what kind of pressure/stimulation to apply, and even how to have better orgasms!

Are sex toys safe for internal use?

Absolutely! Whether you are inserting a sex toy vaginally, anally, or orally, all sex toys made from body-safe materials are safe for internal use!

5. If you regularly masturbate with a sex toy, you won’t be able to orgasm with a partner.

False!

Additionally, some people may have told you that your body will get “used” to what a sex toy or vibrator feels like, and then it will be harder to orgasm with tongues, penises, or fingers, and to that we say UNTRUE! Additionally, as a side note, people who often say this typically feel insecure by the idea of “being unable to satisfy their partner,” or feel like there’s inherent shame to using toys in the bedroom with a partner. And to that we also say it’s time for you to shed their shame and take pleasure into your own hands!

Sometimes from masturbating in the same way again and again, you might condition your body to orgasm a specific way, however people can do this with their hands or other ways so sex toys aren’t just the culprit of this! And like everything in life, variety is the key! By challenging yourself to orgasm and feel pleasure in a variety of different ways and with different stimuli, you’re teaching your body more ways to have orgasms!

6. Using sex toys isn’t natural.

True, but that’s honestly for the best!

Like many of the best things in our modern 2021 lives, sex isn’t natural and that’s for the best. Whether we’re using the best technology like condoms, birth control, or IUD’s to keep us safe from unwanted pregnancies and STI’s, we’re using “unnatural” practices in sex all the time that have been normalized. Unfortunately, pleasure, especially female pleasure, hasn’t been normalized in the same ways, so it’s time to shed the stigma and feel empowered to use sex toys desgined for our pleasure!

7. My partner won’t want me if they use sex toys.

False!

To start, absolutely not. Sex toys aren’t (always) warm, they’re not loving and caring, and they certainly don’t hold you at night (not yet anyways!). They’re pleasure objects designed to bring play into the bedroom for whoever’s the beholder and they’re a great way for partners to explore and experience new sensations together and apart!

By using sex toys together, both you and your partner can educate yourselves about what feels good, and mutual masturbation is hot! Or, adding a blindfold while using a sex toy on your partner is an incredibly heighted sensory experience bound to bring plentiful orgasms!

Here at Lovedreamer.com we’re always happy to help find you the perfect sex toys for every occasion, want or need! Always feel free to reach out to us to help you find exactly what you’re looking for!